Can I Really Speak Kindly to Everyone?
In the 1989 film, Steel Magnolias, Clairee, the wealthiest woman in town, has a gossip problem. At one point she invites a friend into the conversation by saying, “If you can’t say anything nice about somebody, come sit by me.” We are taught as children to speak...King Jesus is Everything
Jesus grew up in a house with brothers, one of whom was named James. When Jesus started his earthly ministry, he began gathering a band of disciples to his side, but James wasn’t one of them (not this James, at least). The Bible says in John 7:5 that “even his...
Absorbing Correction: A Mark of a Mature Man
I don’t like being corrected or criticized in any way, shape, or form. Do you? I’ve actually never met anyone who welcomed it naturally. It strikes at our pride and evokes a defense mechanism inside of us. However… If you want to grow up on the...
In the World, But Not of the World
If you’ve been around traditional evangelicalism long, you’ve no doubt heard that Christian should be “in the world, but not of it.” And there’s a lot of truth in that statement, when it’s rightly understood. The problem is, there...
How to Be Successful Like David Brainerd
How do you define success? Most of us think about our net worth, our ranking at work, or our preparedness for a blissful and happy retirement. The problem with success, defined in conventional terms, is that it’s usually a moving target. I create a sort of...
What Life-Giving Labels Are You Proudly Wearing?
Leader and loser are both labels. One, I avoid and the other, I wear gladly. Derwin L. Gray wrote a fantastic book about living under labels called Limitless Life, and I once turned his book into a sermon series. It was a huge hit because we all live under the...What's Really Holding You Back? Your Beliefs
What is the most limiting challenge you will ever face in your life and in your leadership? Contrary to what you might think, it isn’t money. It isn’t a lack of opportunity. And it isn’t even a lack of talent. Too many people have risen to greatness...
Living Under Grace In a World of Law and Order
There’s a long, straight stretch of newly paved road in Bentonville near my home. It was gravel, and now it’s asphalt, and it’s a quick shortcut to town. Except it already isn’t quick because as soon as it was paved, a 30mph speed limit was...