You can do hard things, like make peace with difficult people. Just make sure your goal is to make peace and not merely to keep peace.
What’s the difference? Peacemakers value both truth and grace. Peacekeepers are so afraid of confrontation that they avoid truth and offer a false or temporary kind of grace.
I’ve struggled with this for most of my life. I don’t like conflict or confrontation at all. I assume all conflict is bad and unfruitful, so I often avoid sharing truth that might be painful or harmful to the relationship. And that’s no way to experience actual peace. It just leads us to hold onto hurts and pain that fester inside and come boiling out when they can no longer be contained.
But Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers…” (Matthew 5:9 NIV)
The pathway to joy-filled living is doing the hard thing of sharing both truth and grace in a restorative manner. It’s speaking up, but without being condescending or argumentative. It’s taking a stand, but a stand alongside people rather than over them.
It’s actively seeking reconciliation rather than passively accepting unspoken disunity. Is there someone you need to seek peace with today? Remember, it’s all about a balance of both truth and grace.