This Is How We Know What Love Is

Want to Know What Love Is

Remember the song by Foreigner, I Want to Know What Love Is? If you grew up in the 80’s, or just have an appreciation for timeless classics, the chorus just started in your head and you know the next line… and I want you to show me!

I think perhaps the writers of the song had a little help from the Apostle John, who wrote to the church:

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters… let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.

~ 1 John 3:16,18 NIV

The world around us wants to know what love is, and there are plenty of false ideas about love. If you follow Jesus, you get to really know what love is on a personal level because you’ve recognized and received it from Jesus before.

You know that Jesus demonstrated and proved his love for us in that, while we were yet sinners, he died for us.

John not only pointed us to Jesus and to his love as something to be received, but he also established a new standard. You can claim that you’ve loved someone, but can you claim to have gone as far as Jesus did to prove it with your actions? Have you taken up a cross to demonstrate your love?

If you really want to dive deeper into what love is all about, don’t just proclaim your love. Prove your love with loving deeds. Love someone who is hard to love. Love someone through a difficult season. Love them when you don’t have words for their pain. Love them when they can’t love themselves.

Absolutely nothing on earth is more powerful than Jesus’ cross-bearing kind of love.

By the way, I’m sending this out on Valentine’s Day, a day we often set aside for sentimental expressions of love. There’s nothing at all wrong with that and very much right with it. But It’s really a day to celebrate a love that runs deeper than flowers and chocolate.

I shared something about my precious wife, Angie, and wanted to tell the whole world about her faithful, steadfast love for me, and mine for her!


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On our very first Valentines Day back in ‘95, @angiercox gave me a pet goldfish. She’d written a poem to go with it:⁣ ⁣ Of all the fishes⁣ in the ocean blue⁣ there’s none as special⁣ or as sweet as you!⁣ ⁣ Then she leaned in to kiss me, kicking the coffee table and spilling the poor fish onto the carpet. I quickly scooped him back into the bowl and she promptly ran fresh cold tap water over him straight out of the sink. ⁣ ⁣ Not only did he die, he suffered miserably. ⁣ ⁣ I later learned how much she hated fish and thought, I sure hope she never hates me!!!⁣ ⁣ Since that day, 25 years ago, I’ve become convinced that she’s the special one. The sweet one. The smart one. The sexy one. The one whose smile makes me smile and whose laugh I find irresistibly cute! ⁣ ⁣ Baby, thanks for being my Valentine, for not hating or murdering me, and for loving me so deeply, so hard, and so faithfully even when we have chosen to love in spite of real, hard feelings sometimes. ⁣ ⁣ Let’s have many, many more of these sweet seasons!

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