Seven Reasons Pastors Ought to Get Together

Today I had the privilege of joining in with a local Pastors’ gathering hosted by Christ Church of the Valley and Shepherd of the Hills Church. I led a roundtable discussion on the topic, The Internal Battles of Even the Best Pastors.

Pastors Gathering at the Iron Sharpens Iron Conference, 2011
Pastors Gathering at the Iron Sharpens Iron Conference, 2011

One of the issues we talked about was the huge need for Pastors to minister to one another. We tend to avoid this because we’re busy doing our own thing at our own church. Most Pastors struggle with self-inflicted isolation and we all hurt as a result. There are issues Pastors face that they can’t always explain to a congregation or even their spouse. So we need one another.

I often issue the challenge for Pastors to adopt another Pastor or two and intentionally minister to them. That can be as simple as picking up the phone and calling them once every few weeks and having prayer with them about whatever the might be facing. It’s vital that Pastors meet with one another and lean on each other. Why?

  1. Because even though we speak to crowds on the weekends and make visits and calls all week long, we still tend toward isolation. Yep, we’re a bit dumb and ought to know better, but we spend too much time alone.
  2. Because we can learn from the experiences of others, including the mistakes of others, which is far less costly than making all of our own mistakes. Somebody has been through what you’ve been through.
  3. Because we are more real when we work on a relationship with each other. There’s something less mystical about all the other Pastors out there once you get to know them. We’re all a little insecure, not just you.
  4. Because prayer changes things. It works. It’s an active force. God promised to respond to prayer, so His leaders need to pray with and for one another.
  5. Because the other guy needs it. Does the thought of “opening up” or “reaching out for help” give you a funny feeling? That’s okay, the other guy needs your help, and you’ll need his sooner than you realize.
  6. Because other Pastors will laugh at your jokes when everyone else (even your wife) just rolls their eyes.
  7. Because “iron sharpens iron.” Everybody needs a friend, and who better than other people in the trenches?

Want an opportunity to meet up with other Pastors? Join our meetup group. Our first meeting is this Friday at the Refinery at Saddleback Church at 10:30 a.m. PST but we hope to set up meetups all over the country.

Want me to come and speak to your gathering of leaders and/or Pastors? Drop me a line.

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I'm Brandon. I'm the Lead Pastor of Grace Hills Church in Northwest Arkansas, which my wife, Angie, and I planted in January of 2012. I previously served as a Pastor at Saddleback Church and still manage Pastor Rick Warren's online, global ministry to pastors, I also lead a blog about blogging, a blog about social media, and a blog about men's issues. And I've written a book - Rewired, which challenges the church to adopt social media to spread the good news about Jesus. I sometimes take on church website design projects and I coach pastors and leaders as well. I'd love to hear from you!
2 Responses
  1. So true. It’s amazing how much we know we need others, yet often take every chance we get to withdraw. Withdrawing is a good thing, but not to the exclusion of having deep relationships with others. I’ve found it helpful to be real with my church family. Establishing these kinds of relationships with other pastors is greatly useful, but your immediate church family is where it’s at.

    1. Chris, you are right. Some of my best friends have been people within my
      church family, doing life together. When I first entered ministry, I was
      told never to trust anyone or get close to anyone because you’d always get
      hurt. Obviously I was told this by guys who had been burned before, but I
      rejected that advice, and thankfully so.

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