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Rekindle the Flame of Love by Paying Attention Again

We don't fall out of love. We stop choosing to do things that are loving. So the way back to love is to do the loving things we did early in our relationship. And that often starts with the simple step of paying attention again. Paul challenged the believers in Philippi, "Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too." (Philippians 2:3-4 …

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Diversity Was God’s Idea to Begin With

Diversity and equality have been hot topics in the last decade of American life. We're in the midst of various shifts in our culture surrounding these concepts, especially in relation to ethnicity and gender, and some of these shifts are good. When my family lived in southern California, we were ethnically not in the majority in our neighborhood, and we appreciated it greatly. Our church was home to people from dozens of ethnic backgrounds, and we loved that even more. All …

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God’s Five Purposes for Your Marriage

Angie and I are approaching our 17th wedding anniversary. I'd love to say that we've always been happily married, but that kind of dishonesty wouldn't help you much. Happiness rises and falls, for all of us, married or not. And happiness isn't the real goal of life anyway. Every day, I pray a prayer over my children that says, "God, help them to first be holy (set apart for You), and then to be healthy (physically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially), and finally to be …

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My Personal Reflections on 2013

In 2013, God was good. But that's true every year, isn't it? His good character never changes. Ever. But life changes for us, and it changes in our world. And through that constant condition of change, God's goodness carries us. I'm reflecting this morning on how our world has changed and how my life has changed in the last year, and it's been a BIG year! Let me celebrate a few things... We had a baby. And he's precious. I don't mean to brag but... well, okay I DO …

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Time: Every Marriage’s Friend and Foe

Ever heard of Daniel Frederick and Susan Bateman? No? That's okay. They aren't movie stars or government leaders or megachurch founders. Their lives are significant, however. They were married on August 29, 1772, till death did they part, 91 years and 12 days later. Daniel and Susan represent history's longest recorded marriage (since Methuselah and the gang at least). * Now you have something to shoot for, if you want to shoot for it, that is. For some marriages, 91 years …

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Three Things Kids Need to See In Their Parents

We sometimes think that raising kids well is all about what we tell them. But what is even more important is what we show them. And if you want to do the best you can for the next generation's sake, you'll model at least these three traits in your home. Security and Stability Kids need to know that they're safe, their basic needs are going to be provided for, and that they will be free to grow up in a stable environment. Selfishness often causes us to fight dirty, abandon, …

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Big Truths I Need to Hear Every Day

I'm a messed up human being. I don't mean that I'm particularly deranged - just that I was born broken and have reached the plateau of adulthood carrying some flaws with me. The biggest flaw? I believe lies... sometimes. Here's a law of life that can't be avoided or broken... The way I think determines what I believe, which determines how I act, which creates my path and all of its rewards and consequences. Ultimately, life's trajectory is a result of my beliefs. When I …

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10 Tough Words for Men

I'm a man. I like being a man. Men aren't better than women, and women aren't better than men. But we're different. So I've had to do a lot of painful discovery of who I am as a man, and I've learned a lot, mostly from my mistakes. I've come to some practical conclusions about manhood and want to drop them on you so you can get back to your man things. God likes men with a wild streak - not a sinful, rebellious wildness, but an "I'm gonna do some stupid-big things for God …

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Before You Plant a Church, Clarify Your Calling

The work of planting a new church will probably kill you. On my first day in Greek Grammar class in Bible college, Dr. Jesse Thomas walked in and stood at the podium to offer a brief welcome, "Welcome to boot camp." Serious students survived, some even thrived, but some fell by the wayside because of their unwillingness to do the hard work of memorization that studying an ancient language requires. I've often thought back to that day as a church planter. Planting a …

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Why Honoring My Wife Matters So Much

If I'm not honoring my wife, I cannot possibly claim to be growing spiritually. Neither can you. I'm planting and pastoring a church. I write articles for Christian blogs and websites. I'm Editor of one of the world's leading websites for Pastors. I also consult with ministries on social media and communication strategies. I've spoken in a conference or two. But if I don't honor my precious wife, I could count all of that other stuff pretty much worthless. Here's how the …

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