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Rekindle the Flame of Love by Paying Attention Again

We don't fall out of love. We stop choosing to do things that are loving. So the way back to love is to do the loving things we did early in our relationship. And that often starts with the simple step of paying attention again. Paul challenged the believers in Philippi, "Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too." (Philippians 2:3-4 …

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When You’ve Fallen Out of Love

We don't actually "fall" in love. We choose to act lovingly. Attraction might be instant, but love is cultivated over time. And since we don't fall in love, we don't actually fall out of love either. We stop choosing to act lovingly. And when we're not cultivating a relationship lovingly, things get cold. Jesus once wrote to a church that was guilty of losing its love for Him. They were going through the motions, holding to the truth, and behaving like a church, but they …

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Loving People You Don’t Like Is Really Love

Loving people you like is easy. Loving people who are easy to love is a cinch. But loving your enemies? That's a challenge. But it's a challenge given by Jesus when He said, "But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you." (Luke 6:27-28 NLT) The basic minimum requirement that the world expects of us is that we be loving when it's easy, but Jesus' new Kingdom ethic is far …

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How Will People Know You Love Them?

Saying "I love you" matters a great deal. It's a missing ingredient in too many family stories. We all need to receive that basic verbal affirmation, and we all need to be giving it as well. But verbal affirmations of love only go so far. What we need is love through deeds, love in action. We show our love in both simple and complex ways, from random acts of kindness to great acts of sacrifice. 1 John 3:18 says, "Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; …

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The Golden Rule for Revolutionaries

Jesus has called His followers to a revolution - an overthrow of the culture. It isn't military or material in nature. In fact, it is driven forward by love instead of hate accompanied by mercy, justice, and compassionate service to others. He has called us to subvert the very value system that surrounds us and to live differently and distinctly in a way that slowly becomes more noticeable until its witness is undeniable. As this quiet kingdom expansion takes place, He …

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To Understand the Gospel, First Understand God

There are three things I know beyond the shadow of a doubt... There is a God. I am not him. Neither are you. I know that if we were to make up our own "god," he wouldn't resemble the God of the Bible much. I know that because that's what humanity has done repeatedly and still does today. It's easier to serve an idol that looks like our idea of god than it is to serve the Living God. That's why I cringe when people say things like, "Well I just think God probably doesn't …

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The Greatest Act of a Loving Parent

What's the most loving thing a parent can do? Correction and discipline? Well it's true that if we fail to correct our kids, we fail to love them, but that's not it. Encourage and praise them? We should encourage ten times as often as we correct, but that's not it either. The greatest act of loving parents is bringing our children to Jesus. The disciples severely underestimated the value Jesus placed on children and Jesus turned the moment into an opportunity to share a …

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Time: Every Marriage’s Friend and Foe

Ever heard of Daniel Frederick and Susan Bateman? No? That's okay. They aren't movie stars or government leaders or megachurch founders. Their lives are significant, however. They were married on August 29, 1772, till death did they part, 91 years and 12 days later. Daniel and Susan represent history's longest recorded marriage (since Methuselah and the gang at least). * Now you have something to shoot for, if you want to shoot for it, that is. For some marriages, 91 years …

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Lavished!

Sometimes the phrase "God loves you" just seems so shallow, especially when we print it on little yellow smiley face bouncy balls. If we're not careful, we wind up with the impression that God's love is a novelty, a token of sorts. But that's not the love of God the Bible presents... How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!... 1 John 3:1 (NIV) This is no love in word only. God's love isn't merely …

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6 Principles to Communicate to Your Church’s Greeters

No matter what your philosophy of Sundays in the life of your church looks like, it's always biblical and beneficial to show love to people who are walking through the doors for the first or second time. In fact, it's crucial. It's very easy to come across as either in-genuine with an "in your face" approach, but it's equally easy to seem uncaring by our silence. As you help believers learn how to show love to new guests, here are some important principles to …

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